My relationship with my partner of 7 years feels like a lie
What is this problem?
This is a recurring relationships question: 2 separate Reddit threads asked a version of it between Oct 27, 2026 and Oct 28, 2026, in r/relationship_advice. It has appeared in the daily top list on 2 different days, peaking at #466. The threads keep coming back to the same themes: deal, ending, grief, partner, relationship, year. That repetition is the signal — many people are hitting the same wall, so it's worth understanding before you post your own version.
How often does it come up?
| Date | Daily rank |
|---|---|
| Oct 27, 2026 | #466 |
| Oct 28, 2026 | #564 |
Where is it being discussed?
- r/relationship_advice: I (F22) don’t know how to deal with grief of ending my 1.5 year relationship with my partner (24M)
- r/relationship_advice: my (23F) relationship with my partner (25M) of 7 years feels like a lie.
What's a sensible first step?
General relationships checklist (not specific advice for this thread):
- Separate facts from interpretations: write what happened, then what you assumed it meant.
- Decide what outcome you actually want before you talk.
- Use 'I' statements and pick a calm, private time for the conversation.
Related problems
- How do I F/50 handle the retirement party of a coworker/former friend F/65 of 27 years after our relationship
- F22 and M27 Struggling with sexual incompatibility in an otherwise happy relationship
- My boyfriend ADHD is ruining our relationship?
- I think I need some advice about my 11 year marriage
- I don't know if I should mend my relationship with my father before it is too late?