How to approach my SO’s relationship with his mother?
What is this problem?
This is a recurring relationships question: 2 separate Reddit threads asked a version of it between Oct 23, 2026 and Oct 29, 2026, in r/relationship_advice. It has appeared in the daily top list on 2 different days, peaking at #62. The threads keep coming back to the same themes: affecting, boyfriend, mother, relationship, same, sleep. That repetition is the signal — many people are hitting the same wall, so it's worth understanding before you post your own version.
How often does it come up?
| Date | Daily rank |
|---|---|
| Oct 23, 2026 | #443 |
| Oct 29, 2026 | #62 |
Where is it being discussed?
- r/relationship_advice: My (30F) boyfriend (35M) still sleeps in the same bed as his mother, and it's affecting our relationship....
- r/relationship_advice: How to approach my (30F) SO’s (29M) relationship with his mother?
What's a sensible first step?
General relationships checklist (not specific advice for this thread):
- Separate facts from interpretations: write what happened, then what you assumed it meant.
- Decide what outcome you actually want before you talk.
- Use 'I' statements and pick a calm, private time for the conversation.
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